Why You're More Likely to Snap At Your Partner When You're Tired
Updated: May 18
"There's a reason why older women in your life will tell you to sleep on an argument before finishing it. The truth is, we as humans are much more likely to be unnecessarily grouchy with our partners when we are tired.
It's not that romantic partners are particularly more annoying when you're tired, but they tend to spend the most time with you, statistically. This puts them in your space more often, making them an easier target. Have you ever wondered why you’re grumpy when you’re tired? Read on to find why.
Sleep Deprivation Makes it Harder to Manage Stress
If you are dealing with chronic sleep deprivation or insomnia, you are significantly more likely to feel stressed.
The Center for Disease Control recommends 7 to 9 hours of sleep a night for the average adult, though you personally may need more function at your best.
When you haven't had enough sleep, you are more likely to focus on the negative aspects of what's happening to you, as well as to not appreciate the positives as much. it also makes you more vulnerable to depression and a weakened immune system.
If you find yourself being snappy with your friends, family, and coworkers, maybe think about putting more effort into getting a full night's sleep.
More Likely to Get Headaches
If you already have chronic headaches, you are more likely to have trouble sleeping because of the pain.
However you should also know that you are more likely get headaches if you struggle with lack of sleep on a regular basis. This can cause issues because if you have a headache you are going to be more irritable.
How to Create Better Sleep Habits and avoid Unnecessary Arguments
One of the best ways to avoid unnecessary arguments is to set a strict sleep schedule. Go to bed and wake up at the same time as often as possible, and you will be significantly better off in the long run.
You should also try to do some light exercise at least four hours before you go to bed. This will help you to use up some of your restless energy and help you to feel more tired, which will help you to get better sleep.
If you find yourself getting grumpy in the early afternoons, try taking a nap or having some caffeine. If you can manage to have a cup of coffee or a soda, and then take a nap, it’s likely to be even more effective as a mood and energy booster.
It may be helpful for you and your partner to get away somewhere for a while. Maybe try going camping to see if that will help you bond and figure out your issues.
While sleep deprivation could be a contributing factor, it will not explain regular fights with your partner. If this is a regular occurrence, you and your partner might want to talk to both a medical doctor and potentially a couple’s therapist to find ways to solve the problems that you are having in your relationship and also help you get a good night's sleep."
Alicia Sanchez is a researcher for the sleep science hub Tuck.com with a specialty in health and wellness. A Nashville native, Alicia finds the sound of summer storms so soothing that she still sleeps with recorded rain on her white noise machine.